Dig this: I was invited to an exclusive Lady’s Night. Within minutes I was mingling with the other ladies and having a great time. There was a young lady there whose face I recognized, but could not remember from where or how I knew her. I tried to let it go, but I was drawn back to this young lady and finally asked her quite bluntly: “Which circles do you run in?” She started naming a few organizations, but nothing rang a bell. Finally she says, “Well, I am a Delta!” For all you Greeks out there, it can be a very joyful time when you meet Frat or a Soror. As we exchanged information, it came to me how we knew each other. She pledged just up the Tobacco Road in North Carolina in 1999. She also attended my probate show in Spring of 2000. There—I made the connection. However, the connection did not stop there.
Quite naturally, I rattled off names of people I knew who went to her school. Being a socialite, she knew every person I mentioned. Oddly, she remarked that a certain individual I mentioned was dating one of her new sorority sisters. I soon realized that this person was also the long time boyfriend of one of my closest friends. “Wait, are you sure we’re talking about the same guy?” I asked her. Within seconds, we described the same individual. We had to be talking about the same person.
Here’s the scoop: This individual was dating both my close friend and a Soror at the same time. After my source was verified, I called my very good friend and broke the news to her. Despite my poetic grace, I could only manage to say, “Your boy is butt-rolling with one of my Sorors. He’s dipping out on you.” Her ensuing silence was heart breaking.
I told my then boyfriend the story and he said that I should have minded my own business and stayed out of it. How could I not tell one of my best girls that her man is cheating and denying her to the other woman who happens to be a member of my sorority? I think I did the right thing by telling my friend. I wasn’t snooping. The information basically fell into my lap. I wondered if it was meant for me to find out so I could tell my friend.
I think that you should tell your friend if you know of infidelity in his or her relationship. But I have heard of times when friendships are ruined because one friend tells the other that their boo is cheating on them. What do you think? Should friends not cross this line? What would you do? Have one of your friends ever told you that your boo was cheating on you? If so, did you believe them? Did you get angry with your friend? I want to know.
P.S. Remember, everything has beauty—including YOU. It just takes a true D.I.V.A to see it!
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