“Someone who’s got what you’ve got is out doing what you’re not” -Anonymous
Have you ever wondered why people whom you view as less talented or less intelligent than you excel more than you do? You look at them and shake your head wondering how they achieved more than you when you know that you’re better than them. I used to have those conversations with myself all of the time. I would say, “I can write better than that person, but she has a book deal or I’m smarter than that person, but they have a higher paying job than me.” Whenever someone I viewed as less qualified would share their plans with me, I’d smile, but deep down inside I’d be thinking there’s no way this person can accomplish this because they don’t have what it takes. Much to my surprise, this person would achieve their goals and much more. I used to think that life was unfair and these kinds of people were given breaks that eluded me until the day I took a leap of faith and chased after my dreams like they stole something! While earnestly pursuing my dreams of becoming a motivational speaker and author—exercising my God-given talents—I stumbled across the “secret” to my peers’ success.
I could’ve hit myself over top of the head when I realized that the “secret” isn’t a secret at all. It’s so obvious that many, including me, tend to over analyze it and totally miss the point. Nike whispers the secret every time you watch one of its commercials or see someone wearing a Nike t shirt that reads “Just do it!” Yes, just do it. That is the key to my “less qualified peers’” success and the key that will unlock those initial doors of your success.
Have you ever noticed that many self proclaimed perfectionists haven’t accomplished much although they are the smartest and most talented people you know? You figure that they should be much more successful with all of their intelligence and skills. Have you also noticed that the people who are less talented have accomplished more than anyone could’ve ever imagined? The major difference between these two groups of people is in their execution—nothing more. The problem that I and many people who are self proclaimed perfectionists have is that we need everything to be perfect in order for us to execute our plans. We’ll brainstorm, research and strategize, but won’t pull the final lever because something’s not right; the timing, the circumstances, the concept—all is not perfect.
I used to be a perfectionist who waited for the perfect time and circumstances before I would act. The only problem was I never acted because the timing or circumstances were never perfect. “If only this were right, then I’ll do that,” I’d reason with myself time after time, unknowingly talking myself out of my blessings. It wasn’t until I listened to God’s leading and created www.shalenadiva.com, that I realized how deceitful perfection can be. The deception of perfection, as I like to refer to it, is nothing more than fear dressed up in Gucci wearing some killer Christian Loubotin pumps—nothing more. This notion of perfection will hinder you from launching out and pursuing your dreams because you’ll never start anything to bring it to fruition.
When I started this blog, I had no foreknowledge of how to run a blog or the technical aspects of creating one. For someone who prides themselves on knowing everything, this experience was scary and humbling for me because I had to admit that I didn’t know everything and search out answers from others. Most perfectionists have a problem with that, but I’m glad that God helped me to recognize it as fear of failing and to overcome it. I had to totally trust God and he supplied ALL my needs along the way. Just before my website launched on April 30, 2010, I still had misgivings because it wasn’t perfect and the perfectionist in me needed it to be perfect. Looking back, I realize that it was fear of my blog not being well received that had me anxious. I considered pulling the plug on it before God spoke to me and told me that my blog was fine as it was and it was meant to be a blessing to others. At that point I got completely out of the way and launched the blog. I hate to use clichés, but the rest is history. My blog has grown by leaps and bounds in a short period of time and people are being blessed by it. I eat, sleep, and breathe this blog. I’m always trying to make it better each day which leads me to the main point of this article.
Don’t set out to be perfect because this mindset will stifle your efforts every time. Set out to execute your plans and learn to perfect them along the way. If you stop by my blog often, you’ll always notice a tweak here and there. I’m constantly stepping up my game and perfecting this blog. I guess this is the only time my perfectionist nature comes in handy. It won’t let me settle for being mediocre and it keeps me on my toes, the cutting edge. Being a perfectionist isn’t a bad thing when you know when to hone in on perfection and when to simply execute which can be the scariest part. To me, constantly perfecting my blog is a matter of finesse, but executing my vision for the blog takes courage and faith.
Had I got caught up in this notion of perfection, I would have never launched the blog because it wasn’t perfect enough when I first started it. I had no idea that in the midst of God using me to create my blog, he was also teaching me a life lesson that will help me to achieve greater success. He taught me that He would meet me along the way as I executed the plans He put in my heart.
Lastly, the following Bible scripture really encourages me to keep following my dreams: “Do you see the man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before unknown men.” Proverbs 22: 29. This scripture lets me know that if I keep honing my craft and perfecting it along the way, I will be very successful and so will you if you constantly develop your talents by acting upon your plans. If you want to become a writer, keep writing and learning the craft. If you want to become a singer, keep singing and training your voice. You have to start somewhere and you have to keep perfecting your skills.
Don’t plan to be perfect. Plan to execute and perfect along the way.
P.S.- Remember everything has beauty, including YOU. It just takes a true D.I.V.A to see it!
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