Back in February of this year, I cried out to God and asked Him to help me lose weight. My son was a little over a year old and I had been struggling to lose the weight I gained before and during my pregnancy. I was tired of sneaking past mirrors because I was to afraid to deal with the fact that I hated how I looked. I got tired of my clothes fitting too snug and not being able to wear anything cute because I couldn’t fit into them. I realized I had to make a major change after I saw a videotape of my fiance and I singing Happy Birthday as my son tried to blow out the candles on his cake. I cringed when I saw the tape. I looked sloppy. I had more rolls on my sides than the Pillsbury Doughboy. Once I determined to lose the weight with a weight goal in mind, I went to God in prayer and asked Him to help me find a way to lose the weight. The next day, I found the Food Lovers Fat Loss System and it changed my life.
 
 I ordered the program and was thoroughly impressed with the resources contained in the package. I had everything I needed to lose the weight and I wasted no time getting started. I read all of the materials and listened to the welcome cd. Within a week, I lost twelve pounds doing the 6 day detox program. It was truly a battle of the mind and my will, but I did it. I then graduated to the 21 Day Metabolism makeover and had even more success. I lost inches and pounds. I was eating right and working out. I was killing the game and my body was reflecting it. My mother noticed my weight loss and congratulated me. I knew I lost the weight any time my mother lets me know! Things were going well for me until I went back to work and stopped eating right and working out. I could’ve kicked myself for getting off track.

What really irritated me about falling off track was that The Food Lovers System is so easy and good for me. You literally eat the foods you would normally eat in a healthy way and you exercise–that’s it. I felt so good when I was following the system. I felt closer to God because I was taking care of my temple which is my body and I was very creative. This blog idea came to me while I was taking care of my body because the mind, body and soul are all interconnected.

A few weeks ago, I went back to God and asked for help to get back on track with my health and wellness. And magically, Robert Ferguson, the creator of Food Lover, reached out to me on Facebook! He told me that he wanted to work with me in some capacity. I was more than excited. Recently, he had me on his show Fat Loss Tuesday as a co-host. I thought we were going to talk about my post pregnancy weight challenges, but the call turned into Robert issuing me a personal challenge to lose the weight I so desperately want to lose. I couldn’t believe that America’s Fat Loss coach was extending an invitation to help me personally.

I get so filled up thinking about this because Robert is offering to help little old me. For those of you who think you don’t know Robert, I bet you do. If you haven’t seen his infomercial for Food Lovers, you’ve probably seen him on the Mo’Nique show. He recently helped a woman lose twenty pounds, but most importantly, he helped her gain self confidence and a new lease on life. Check out the video of Robert’s first appearance on the Mo’Nique show here.

I have started my challenge and I encourage some of you who want to lose weight and be healthy to start the challenge as well. If you’ve gotten off track, get back on track. If you’ve yet to get started, get started with me. I am about to start a group on Robert’s website http://www.dietfreelife.com and I would love for you to join me.

Let’s be healthy, let’s lose the weight, and let’s better our lives together. Each week, I’ll keep you posted on my progress and offer advice and tips to lose the weight. If you have any questions for Robert, please share them with me and I’ll ask him as I’ll be a co-host every few weeks or so on his show Fat Loss Tuesday to check in with my progress.

Lastly, I have a special offer for the reader who leaves a comment detailing their weight challenges and their desire to change. You don’t want to miss this offer!

Robert Ferguson is also offering a 10% discount and priority shipping towards the purchase of the new and improved 6 Day Detox program to ShalenaD.I.V.A readers. All you have to do is enter DIVA as the promo code. I’m getting my detox program, aren’t you? Become educated about and purchase the new and improved 6 Day Detox here.

 
Be blessed!
 
ShalenaD.I.V.A
 
P.S.- Remember everything has beauty including YOU. It just take a true D.I.V.A to see it! 

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39 comments on “Losing the Weight by ShalenaD.I.V.A”

  1. Just last night, I lay in bed tossing and turning thoroughly upset with myself for feeling so heavy! In February of 2009, I made a commitment to lose weight. I was extremely tired of not being the best possible me that I could be weighing in at close to 250lbs. I have always been overweight, but the weight seemed to hide itself until recently. I knew I had to make a change when I hated seeing pictures of myself and began to feel ashamed. I had promised myself as a young girl that I could be whatever weight I wanted as long as I never looked sloppy…and that day had come. I joined a weight loss program, a gym and started working out with a personal trainer. I was ready to go and committed to losing the weight…and I did! I lost 70 pounds. I was and am so proud that I accomplished that goal, however, life happened. After getting a new position at work, which took up more hours in my day, I stopped working out. I blamed it on my job and on money being tight. Then slowly I began to see my eating habits worsen, from eating way past my portion sizes and even going back to the fast food lifestyle. They say that falling off the wagon of weight loss is ok, as long as you get back on. Well I have fallen off seriously and every attempt to get back on has resulted in another slip. Last night I prayed to God to help me get back on track and focus on my original weight loss goal…and this morning your blog popped up in my inbox! I know a sign when I see one!

    • Kyra, you had it at “just last night”…–LOL! I had second thoughts about including this post because I was running out of time and thought I’d include it next week. However, God had other plans and admonished me to post this article. I, too, tossed and turned throughout the night because I felt so convicted for not having posted this article yet. I now know that I had to write this article for YOU! God kept tugging on my heart. I’ve ad great success with Foo Lovers and Robert Ferguson is great! If you want to go on this journey with me, simply contact me through the contact sheet so I can let you know what you’ve won by sharing your touching weight challenge story.

      Thank you for reaching out to me. Email me and we’ll take it from there.

      Be blessed! Mu-wah!

  2. OMG! Shalena, reading your story sounds so much like me. I can’t believe it. Throughout high school I weighed 130 the entire 4 years (mind you that was 27 years ago), but I had so much energy and strength. Then after graduating from college I began to put on weight, but not much (or so I thought). One day my mother noticed and made the comment to me, “you’re past 130.” (Mothers can tell when you gain and when you lose weight). I replied back to her, oh it’s just a little.

    Girl before I knew it, it was catching up to me. 130 became 140, 140 became 150, etc… Then on July 12th, 1997, my mother passed from Breast Cancer. Well we all look for some outlet to grieve, at that time my was eating and shopping. The more I was grieving, the more I would feed it. I belive at this time I was about 170. My Dad kept warning me, Tanya watch your weight. It’s easy to put on, but hard to take off. Fast Forward to today, I am a very disatisfied 279. My all-time heaviest. I left a lot out, but bottom line is, GOOD BYE OVERWEIGHT, HELLO HEALTHY!!!

    I am determined to SHED 129 pounds and with the help of the Lord and the drive within me, I’m going to do it! “I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME.” AMEN!!!

    SIDEBAR NOTE: Yesterday, Friday, August 27th, I sat down on the front porch holding my 3 month God-daughter and it pained me to get up. The weight impacts me knees and it was a struggle to get up. I don’t want to live like this anymore. *Tears flowing*

    • Tanya, you hit the nail right on the head: “YOu can do all things through Christ who strengthens YOU.” Some people don’t hink losing weight is as big of a deal as some people make it, but it depends upon the individual. I’ve been asking God to help me work through my own mental blocks and limitations that stand in the way of me committing to a work-out routine. I had to be honest with myself and admit that I don’t like being this current weight because I feel unattractive. I don’t like how my clothes fit and I don’t want to go certain places because I don’t want people reminding me of my weight. MOst are not as bold and forthcoming as my mother who’ll just say: “Oh.. you’re gaining weight or where did all this weight come from.” They will tell me how they feel with their eyes. Having a small child and working leaves me with little time to work out. BUt I believe that God will give me the ideas on how to make the time and to deliver me of the negative energy I have towards losing the weight and remianing healthy.

      Tanya, we can do this. WE will be successful. We will conquer this thing because we will educate ourselves and believe in ourselves along the way.

      IT’s funny how I’ve conquered many other things; yet, this weight problem seems to dog me. Nonetheless, I will be okay.

      I’m so glad we connected through Robert Ferguson.

      YOu can always use my blog as a platform to share your personal weight loss story to inspire and encourage others.

      Be blessed and thanks for sharing.

      Love ya!

  3. Hey Shalena:

    Yes we will conquor this weight issue. I looked in the mirror at myself the other morning and all I could do was shake my head and ask myself how in the world did I allow myself to get this big? BUT, I flip the script and began waving good bye to the old self and saying hello to the new Tanya Maria Word. OVERWEIGHT IS NOT AN OPTION!

    I had to ask the Lord to forgive me for abusing HIS temple, my body. I know that HE did not create me to be this way. I ask Him to help me love my temple and to treat it right. I am so excited about this chapter in my chapter, it’s a new season and a new day for me. (Even said good bye to an old beau – I feel even better since I said good bye to him). I am beliveing God for a complete healing in my body. I don’t think I shared this with you, but I have been hemoraging for about 1 month and had surgery for it on August 13th, well girl this morning the flood gates decided to open. I was tooo done. Thank the Lord I feel better this evening. I pretty much rested this afternoon and evening.

    There is another chapter in my life that God is daily helping me with and that is the homegoing of my daddy. My best friend, mentor, road dog, my buddy. Last year on Wednesday, January 28, 2009 at 9:15 A.M. my daddy went home to be with the Lord. OMG!! Talk about an experience that almost took me out!

    I had just talked to my daddy earlier that morning at 6:00 A.M. and then at 9:15 A.M. I recieve a phone call from the Detroit Police Department letting me know they found my daddy on the floor of his bedroom. Girl, I thought I was going to lose my mind. I was completely out of it, and then to make matters worst, we had an ice storm here in Columbus, OH and I couldn’t get out and couldn’t get a flight out. (My parents lived in Detroit). I had to wait until the next day.

    Shalena, girl I was and still am still hurting. The sting is still there and is as fresh as it was on Jan. 28th. My daddy was not sick, he was fine. The only thing he had was arthrtis. He woke up to start his day and took his flight home. (Bear with me, tearing up) I was like Lord why, there are so many other men you could have took (bad men, the robber, the killer, etc.) and you took my daddy, my best friend who wasn’t and didn’t bother a soul.

    A few days before his passing, Daddy and I had talked about shedding weight (he was overweight and it would hurt him to walk a lot). We vowed to each other that we would shed the weight together and then he left me. So this is a two-fold journey for me. While Mommie and Daddy are not here physically with me, they are here with me spiritually and I know they’re in heaven looking down on their baby girl and cheering me on. (In case you’re wondering, yes I am the only child). Miss my parents ever so much, they weren’t just my parents, but my best friends.

    So to sum it all up, shedding this weight is being done (a) in memory of my parents; and (b) for a healthier and more fit me.

    I am eternally grateful to God that we connected through Robert Ferguson. I am a firm believer that God brings people into our lives at different seasons for different reasons.

    Love ya!
    Lady T

    • Tanya, your comment had me in tears. I pray that each day gets better for you. Here’s one thing I realized baout losing that weight. YOu have to love you as you are now. Recently, I was getting down on myself for being outof shape for for not exercising. Even when i was out on Kelly DRive jogging with my son, a little negative voice in my head kept saying :” You’re dumb to have stopped working out. Look at you now. You could be in tip top shape by now…” I was so discouraged that I didn’t get a good workout. I asked God tohelp me and He did.

      He revealed to me that I must love myself as I am now because that positive energy and love will carry me through. You see, we are doing FoodLover to better ourselves. That means we are taking whowe are and making ourselves better than before.

      Do me a favor, go back to that mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself now and you’re happy that you’re making changes for the better. This positive energy will carry you through. And your parents will be proud.

      Thank you for reaching out to a sister. LOL!

  4. I been heavy all of my life and been trying to so hard to I just don’t have the funds to do so. I have a baby and need to loss it so I can become healthy and see my child grow. Funds are very low on medicare and been trying to learn how to eat right but if you don’t have the funds to get the things and food to eat right how can you do it?

    • Traci, I think you should look into couponing to help you save a lot of money on groceries so you can eat better foods that won’t break the bank. I featured two women on my website called the Double Saving Divas. They were recently featured on TLC’s Extreme Couponing. Those women can save so much money. i would suggest liking their page on facebook and learning how to coupon. I think that’s a great start!

  5. I have definitely felt pressure to lose weight in relationships. It’s like you’re not good enough because you’ve gained a few pounds. And don’t have a baby! Your weight will fluctuate like crazy—never mind the hormones. I think people shoul…d be more compassionate when their partner gains weight because you never truly know what the other person is going through. Some men seem to think that women are the only ones with this problem, but men get out of shape, too. It’s just that women don’t harp on it as much.

  6. U r soooo right Salena…aaawwww…its just alil beer belly they say…hahahaha…but us…they tell us we done let ourselves go…WHATEVER!!!!!…got rid of 195 pounds QUICK when he walkd out that door….and the biggest one of my headaches left toooo…(putn tylenol extra strength away)….yuppppp

  7. lol haha ur so right. Yeah n they dnt think there’s anything wrong wth the way they look. But r quick to point out our fatty parts. ”Eers n borskas n dan n hangkas” lol hahaha

  8. @Rochelle…195lbs left fast…thanks i needed that gut.. LOL… buster! @Shalenadiva…the attempt to demote you is one of THE tricks the devil use to distract you from your hunt…you were on the right track…you had the scent…they be… trying to throw you off…but keep your eyes open…you were right the first time..HE BEEN UP TO SOMETHING..change your tactics…say `get behind me satan…just before you talk to him..THEM..you be talking to the devil…the devil is a lier…always a has been and always will be a lier…from now on…call a spade a spade…say `i knows i`m fine…BIG FINE LEGS N ALL! you maybe lol..girlfriend..but i am serious. Dont let them CLOWNS DEMOTE YOU! k

  9. lmho rochelle hahaha.. Its so right. They feed u fat n then they complain.. Haha..but they forget tht they first had a chest n now its a wardrode/chest of drawers.. Hehe..

  10. I think men like there patrners healthy so they’ll be around longer.At 52 i’m in great shape,but i’ve never stopped workingout.I’ve helped every girl i dated since teen years stay in shape,and i smoked until i was 51.But we live in a very shallow world where good looks rule the land,so being attractive is important.

    • G—Thank you for your honesty and I agree that overall health is important, but it shouldn’t cause someone to change their feelings about someone. That’s unfair.

  11. Yes I am also wondering the same thing. Why is that when we get a little larger than the day we first met it suddenly becomes a problem. While they can sit there and get big as a house and they still want you to love them the same. I heard… this and it makes me mad as H*LL when I hear it. Now I heard this with my own two ears. Two afro-americans men were talking and they said black women after a while get to comfortable and they let themselves go. Sure we have babies, have the stress of work life and trying to take of home, etc. I don’t believe they realize what we do. But in the meantime they are thinking about running off with Malibu Barbie who don’t have to deal with all the chaos. Just like in the movie 80/20, then they realize Malibu Barbie can’t cook, wash clothes, clean or nothing. But she can look good, spend money and sex them to death. Then all of a sudden they realize they made a mistake and want back what they had. Men all it takes is a little help, support and encouragement from yall.

    • ‎@Sandra—You said it all right there! It takes a lot to stay in shape as a woman, especially with kids and hormones. And what about birth control? OMG! That mess can make you gain weight and lose your hair. So you end up fat and bald headed—LOL! I agree, a little more support and encouragement will do. But it seems like with us women, almost anything can have an effect on our weight. I dunno…

  12. ‎G…..imma just say…ive met some pretty UGLY folks and some ugly PRETTY folks….if u r only lookn at the outside….U WILL NEVER C THE BEAUTY THAT IS ON THE INSIDE…my Pastor says….u have to c it b4 u c it or u wont c it….i …bet u have turnd down some beautiful women bcuz of the way they lookd and dated some real ugly nside women becuz they…umm….lookd good…..sheeshhhh…u stayd on all the women u dated….WOW….i bet u were just a joy 2 b around……hahahahahhaha….i have a good friend who only dated n shape look good long hair make up wearn women….u know what he got out of it?????…. H.I.V….HAHAHAHA on LOOKIN GOOD….all the meds hes takin now make him LOOK good toooo..hes still my friend…..but hes payn a price 4 bein soooooo shallow!!!!…..im just sayn

    • It’s so hard to be in control on the issue of weight control,and your absolutely right that feelings shouldn’t change as result of that.I’m from Philly,i was raised seeing all types of people.Lean or Thick,neither is as important as “NICE PERSON” !!!

      • G Brian—I’ve noticed “the look” in the casino industry. That must be tough to stay in shape like that.

        • If your position involves you being on FrontStreet,there is a chart of how you can wear your hair,facial hair, weight,jewelry,etc.The Casino industry is a tough place,gotta be tougher to not let it get the best of you .

          • If its job related and u can handle that stress okkkk…go 4 it….id rather keep kids who hug me no matter how i look or how big i am…and bsides i aint afraid to make and eat cupcakes with them…n the long run…it aint gonna matter ……BECUZ GOD LOOKS AT THE HEART AND HOW BIG IT IS and …ummm…i was referrin to people N GENERAL… male and female toooo…{;-D)…..i see women with HANDSOME husbands/men…and they walkn around all bruised up and WITH black eyes…guess they were their punchn bags!!!!….SMH

      • Doesnt matter where u live…i grew up n Ohio…was born n Chicago..now i live in California…all shapes and sizes from allllll over…im pleasantly plump myself…hahahaha…i loves to cook..likes a man who loves to eat…if i meet a pump…d up dude who likes to work out…good for u..but dont put me down becuz i weigh a lil more than U want me tooo….im loyal…faithful…a one man woman….clean…me and my home…ill just say…ur loss and i’ll just stay on the treadmill….me and my mp3 player listenin to Jaheim….he sure looks good to me….lmppbo…..yuppppp

  13. My ex bf told me I was HUGE— and I am the same size in my picture….I couldn’t believe it– crushed my heart in pieces….

    • If a man EVER told me i was TOO BIG 4 HIM….then i know my heart is tooooooo BIG tooooo and he was TOOOOOOO small for all the love i have to give….im just sayn….and takin a qualude wont make HIM look any better…how bout dat?????

        • @Shalena…girl..i you know me*this all a big laff to me*i done seen so much*been thru so much*lost so much*its not the person u deal with*U have to talk 2 the LIL imp nside that person*dont 2 much make me feel bad about myself*I LOVE ME C…AZ JESUS LOVES ME*CANT NOOOOO EARTHLY MAN TAKE ME TO HEAVEN* & i live by that*when something is said to *per say*make ME feel bad*they walk away shakin their heads caz i just smile and say now whats wrong with U*hahaha*my mother n law told me this about her son**when u get past all the HAPPY u THOT u had with him*u will appreciate ALL THE JOY U FIND N JESUS*i love her to this day 4 that*another friend told me *2 tears n a bucket and phukk it*satan is busy*he will use ANYONE 2 take ur focus off JESUS*OFF UR JOY*IF U LET him*THEN U SHUD B ON UR KNEES APOLOGIZING 2 GOD 4 ALLOWIN satan 2 make u think so little of WHAT GOD GAVE U*LIFE*JOY*PEACE*HIS DEATH WAS A WASTE IF U LET satan do that 2 u*i know that i know that i know that JESUS LOVES ME *I FIGHT LIKE A BIG girl ON MY knees

  14. I agree with u Rochelle. I m not a small person, I define who/what I am, not society. I v had men tell me I was what they wanted but wasn’t small enough. I feel sorry for ppl who fall under societies spell.You’ ll never know what u hv til its gone

      • I fasted. In fact i was actually fasting for smthing else n totally forgot abt my weight. By the time i was done fasting i had lost so mch..all tht. Wen i started eating agen..my tummy cudnt handle mch food..so thts basically how i downsized my portions..n its stayed tht way..tht combined wth js fast walking or running did the trick.. I still have more weight to lose tho.
        Shalena i became big while i was married. I ate alot bcoz i wanted to b undesirable to my abusive hsbnd. Wen i eventually realised the reason for my weight gain.. i.e. After my divorce.. I also realised tht i didnt need to punish myslf anym…ore bcoz no one else was gna punish me eitha. I hadta forgive myslf for allowing this n also forgive myslf for allowing myslf to b placed in tht situation n doing tht to myslf. Then when i accepted myslf i could forget abt how i looked n js take it one step at a time to change..inside n out.
        Absolutely. Its always a deep emotional thing n we make excuses for why we dnt want to uproot tht thing mostly by eating i think. 🙂 but its nt a train smash.. Its do-able one step at a time. One kilo/pound at a time. 🙂

        • Gabi—WOW! That’s a great story. It’s funny how our weight corresponds to what’s going on in our lives.

        • @Gabrielle….im so proud of what u have accomplishd…im at the gym each morning now tryna lose the weight i ACTUALLY gaind…theres a thinner woman n here and shes NO LONGER CRYN TO GET OUT….shes actually almost there….yuppppp…keep up da good work….i tell myself…pain is a gain to a new frame…already buyn new clothes…..YESSSSS

          • Lol Rochelle.. I got ur meaning. Im a size 34 pants now..and a size medium shirt..size 10 i think tht is. In South Africa anything below a size 8 is for kids.. Its too thin.. So my goal is to be a size 8. But yes its js the toning now. And yeah if only i cud get a job then ill be rid of the dead weight too. Hallelujah amen to tht! ..

  15. Before i got married..i was sporting a 6pak weighed 54kg/108pounds i think..n was very active. I know ill not weigh tht agen but i can get my 6pak back n be active agen.. God Bless me wth a great job to achieve this.

  16. Whewwww!!!!!*yall done made me hungry*im bout to make me some homemade from scratch egg rolls*imma fry em up*prolly make me a cake & akk like i dont have to give any 2 anyone*lmppbo*just kidn*but if ya want some*stop on by*i sure mixed up a… WHOLEEEEEEEEEEEEEE LOT*bout to get my eat on*then back to da GYM I GO(evil grin)take dat u healthy eaters*hahahhahaha*GOD 4GIVE ME*BUT DOIN UR WORK TAKES A LOT OF STRENGTH……LOL…HAVE A BLESSD DAY EVERY BODY

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