Taineisha C. Bolden, M.D. is a 3rd year Family Medicine resident at Moses Cone Hospital in Greensboro, NC. She was born in the south Bronx, NY, and moved to SC when she was ten and lived there for 7 years. She attended Duke University for undergraduate school, where she met the love of her life, her husband Dorian. The happy couple has a daughter and currently resides in Durham, NC. She received a B.S. degree in Biological Anthropology and Anatomy, with minors in Chemistry and German Language. She went to the University of North Carolina’s School of Medicine. She did really well in high school, graduating 3rd in her class and getting a full tuition scholarship to Duke, but was overwhelmed once she got there. Her first few years at Duke shook her self confidence. I didn’t start feeling “smart” again until very late. We interviewed Taineisha for this edition of successful women and here are her responses on life and her career.
Please list a quote or motto you live by and state why.
“It’s when things seem worse that you mustn’t quit.”
What drives you to succeed?
I have always just had an inner drive. If anything I feel like I’ve been motivated, unfortunately, but a constant doubt or disbelief in my abilities and a desire to do more and be the best.
Can you briefly describe the path you took to get to your current job? Did you have to -make certain career moves? Any sacrifices along the way?
I am that person who wanted to be a doctor since kindergarten and never wavered. I was a stereotypical nerd in high school. I received enough scholarship money to Duke so that I didn’t have to pay anything. Then I continued straight on into medical school. I believe, honestly, that I sacrificed a lot of my happiness and youthfulness to being so focused.
How do you handle setbacks? Can you share one?
In the past I have had meltdowns. But age has provided me with opportunities to learn better coping skills.
What do you enjoy most about your job?
I have many patients that I really enjoy treating and feel like they are more like my friends. One of the greatest things is delivering a baby and getting the opportunity to watch it mature. Human development is amazing.
Where do you see yourself in the next five to ten years?
I am still deciding on what the next leg of my journey will be. The changes in the climate in medicine making being a primary care physician appear both more rewarding and more daunting.
Any advice or words of encouragement you’d like to give to shalenadiva.com readers?
Give yourself room to dream. My husband taught me that more than anyone. It is wonderful to be focused, but don’t be so focused that you don’t allow yourself to imagine possibilities and to consider other options.
Is there anything else you’d like to share about yourself? Personal testimonies are extremely helpful and well received.
My mother was murdered in my last year of medical school, 4 months after I got married. To this day, her murderer has not been captured. That experience has cast a shadow on my life ever since. For a while, I focused mostly on my loss and my sadness. I focused on the vicious nature of the crime that was perpetrated against her. Only recently have I been able to come from beneath that dark cloud. I’ve been able to be thankful for the time that I had with her on this earth. I am able to rejoice in her spirit that I see within myself and my daughter. Lastly, I am able to recognize the strength and fortitude that was placed within me to withstand such a tragedy and not crumble. That’s my message to anyone who hears what happened to my mother and thus to me- that even when faced with the insurmountable, your faith and a power greater than you can bring you through.
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