October 23, 2004 by Ebony Fletcher

On October 23, 2004 my ex-boyfriend came to my house to kill me! After unsuccessfully trying to convince me to come back to him, he pulled out his revolver and shot me in the leg. We tussled for the gun, but eventually, he pinned me face down on the floor, sat on my back, and shot me in the back of my head at point blank range. I would have never thought he would do something like that to me. He was a very quiet, to himself kind of person. He wouldn’t even yell at me and would never call me a bitch. He never slapped, punched or verbally abused me either. So this came as a total shock. We had broken up several times before this happened and I would always go back to him. After he came home from prison he was a different person. He was very suspicious of everything I did. I felt bad for him and I think I stayed in the relationship out of pity. All the people that loved him were gone and I was his last hope! Did I pity him? Yes, I think I did. I wanted him to do everything he needed to get his life on track. He was a strategic basketball player and he could have made it to the pros. I was behind him every step of the way. Were there warning signs? Yes, there probably were ones that I couldn’t see because I was so in love. What you can’t see on the inside, others can see on the outside. Should I have looked at my relationship a little closer? Yes, I should have. Silence speaks loud, too. He wouldn’t even speak to me if I didn’t get him want he wanted and usually it was marijuana. The advice I would like to give other women is to never love someone else more than you love yourself. If you don’t have enough to give yourself, you can’t give it to others. Sometimes it takes women to have a “snap out of it” moment and when I had my moment on October 23, 2004; it was the best and worst day of my life!

Ebony Fletcher, CEO of Ebbies Hair & Nail Salon, Inc. resides in Brooklyn, NY. She’s so glad that she doesn’t look like what she’s been through. You can reach her on Facebook. Her salon’s address is anywhere you are because she can travel to you.

Ebony Fletcher tells her story in Souls of My Young Sisters: (Souls of My Sisters, an imprint of Kensington Publishing; June, 2010; $15.00; trade paperback), written and edited by Dawn Marie Daniels and Candace Sandy with a foreword by Madeline Smalls and Mary J. Blige. She joins sixty contributors who all tell their true stories, sharing their private pain in the hopes that it will inspire other women during difficult times.

© 2011, Shalena D.I.V.A. – Author| Speaker| Life And Business Coach. All rights reserved.

28 Comments

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    Great journey and experience!

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  4. Shevar Davis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:27 am

    Ignorancy…

  5. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:33 am

    @Shevar–hey! I thinkit’s deeper than that. I think some people think they can’t make it on their own or are so jealous that they don’t want to see their ex’s with other epople. This guy tried to kill this woman and by God’s grace, she survived. How many people do you know of who haev survived a gunshot wound to the head at poitn blank range?

  6. Brown Suggar Babies Williams via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:35 am

    MIND OVER MATTER ~~ GOD CONTINUES TO BLESS YOU! I CAN RELATE TO YOUR STORY TOO! Only that Person Knows Why they Act that Violent.

  7. Gene Steele via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:39 am

    Self hatred & or pain

  8. Gene Steele via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:39 am

    I’ve been threatened & hit! Its not a good feeling at all!!!

  9. Reanader Hamlin via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:39 am

    Thats scary and its on the news all the time you just cant be too carefull

  10. Shevar Davis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:42 am

    Shalena no1 i know dat survived dat,but if he grew up d ryt way mayb he wud kno not 2 beat a woman so its lack of knowledge.

  11. Rashaunda Cakes Covin via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:44 am

    HURT PEOPLE…..hurt people:(

  12. Shevar Davis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:49 am

    Lack of knowledge is Ignorancy.Whichever way u luk on it,its all falls back down 2 Ignorancy cuz he thought it was d only way

  13. Shevar Davis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:50 am

    D only way 2 get back her without tryN 2 reach to an agreement and understanding with dis woman.If it was love,he wudnt do it

  14. Lotta Faith Brooks via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:51 am

    The bible is so true the devil comes to kill n destroy us..demons are real thats why we have to stay connected to God…He will defeet the enemy when he comes to take over.thank God u still here to share your story be blessed!

  15. Willie Ross via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:54 am

    THEY WAS CRAZY FROM THE BEGINNING! AND KNEW THAT NOOTHER POSITIVE SOUL WOULD GO! THE DEVIL NEVER HAVE AND WILL NEVER WIN!

  16. MsDebbie MsEdmonson Boyd via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:54 am

    Wow.Wow.Never got that Far. But I Thank God. He Got Me Out.

  17. Sharon McGlone via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:55 am

    @shalena wow i am speechless!

  18. Shevar Davis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:56 am

    But luckily 4 her she survived & i hope she learned frm her mistake & he did too if he isnt on death row or dead by now.

  19. Willie Ross via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 11:59 am

    THE IS THE SIGN! HELLO MS. DIVA. ALL SMILES!

  20. Renona Eason via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:09 pm

    Very crazy and ignorant!

  21. Bridget Cagle via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    Yes my children’s father tried to beat the hellout of me because I didn’t want him anymore…I moved to Cali for two years to get away from him

  22. Abel Lewis via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:25 pm

    Hey that is just the way it is. Some people if you break up with them they will kill you for doing that.

  23. MsDebbie MsEdmonson Boyd via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    Again Wow!

  24. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:30 pm

    @bridget–I’m glad you got away from him.

  25. Bridget Cagle via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:37 pm

    Shalena I’m not tryna be nobodies victim I was raised to be a strong positive caring person and nobody is taking that away from me…My Uncle was gonna kill that nigga….and yes that is what classifies a nigga…cause I only use that word where it applies beat up women and destroy their lives those are punk niggas! And he turned out to be a dead beat dad 10 kids and I’m like how did he come to this…I was attracted to him for all the right reasons He was a smart outgoing student and athelete in school good home and parents …he catered to my needs for the first couple of years then he went to the military came back a dam fool

  26. MsDebbie MsEdmonson Boyd via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:40 pm

    I Thank God. For Everyone Who Get Out. Because it Don’t Always Happen! Smh.

  27. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 12:42 pm

    @Briget–Do yout hink the military played a role in this? Was he suffering from a mental illness or something?

  28. Bridget Cagle via Facebook on May 26, 2011 at 1:29 pm

    That has always been my view because he came home a totally differnet person the Army made him crazy so because of it I don’t date military men in my opinion they are crazy as hell….ijs

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